Friday, January 29, 2010


There is a cycle to any change. So lets say that someone feels love then finds out that the other doesn't love them..then that's the change that takes place and it's the dealing with the change that is difficult for individuals to manuever.

The 6 stages to the Change Cycle include:
1. Loss: Feeling of Fear, Thoughts are cautious, Behavior is paralyzed.
2. Doubt: Feeling of resentment, thoughsts are skeptical behavior is resistant.
3. Discomfort: Feeling of anxiety, thoughts are confused, Behavior is unproductive
4. Discovery: Feeling of Anticipation, Thoughts are creative, Behavior is energized.
5. Understanding: feeling of confidence, thoughts are pragmatic, behavior is productive.
6. Integration: Feeliing of satisfaction, thoughts are focused, behavior is generous.

The better you get at change the quicker you go through the 6 stages. The dangerous thing is that many people spend too much time between stages 3 & 4 which cause them to become stagnant and sometimes start back at stage 1.

The key is believing that you can get through the change.
A friends mother told me...there are 3 stroms of life...A storm is coming, your in the middle of storm, or coming out of one. Get yourself to get through these stages as quickly as possible. You'll be a lot better equiped to handle change without it affecting you adversely.
You'll observe in your own life that these stages of change happen in every change of your life.

Friday, January 22, 2010

Black History Continues

I know I'm a little early for Black History Month. I was emailed the attached video and if you can I think you should send it to all that you know as well.

I know that the brothas and sisters of the blog world are very conscious, take pride in our history and make differences in ways that they may not even know to this world. I'm putting this video on my blog to remind us of our strength, courage and resiliency. We as bloggers do make a difference. So lets continue that by using this video as a reminder of who we are and what we are capable of.

I remember in elementary school after Martin Luther King died singing...We Shall Overcome. We have overcome many things since then, but isn't it time that we come together and continue to grow remembering that there continue to be obstacles and forces that may be in place to stunt our excellence?

A War For Your Soul-Birmingham version from Erisai Films on Vimeo.