Saturday, December 27, 2008

The Result

The results of my little situation on Christmas night was less than I anticipated after staying up really late thinking about how I would talk to my missing friend. I'll call him BuckBuck.

The next day BuckBuck called me to apologize. I couldn't talk at the time because I was on my way out with my parents and didn't want their day to be filled with any concern as I spoke to him. So I told him that we would talk later. He wanted me to accept his apology right then but me being me was not going to do that until I said what I stayed up all night thinking about. I told him that we were ok and we'd talk and not to worry. He did sound like he was remiss.

I sent him a text message while I was out.
Me: I will see you later right?

BuckBuck: No

Me: Why Not? You have called me for weeks to ensure that I came down here for xmas, you better see me.

BuckBuck: Ok

Me: I mean it!

BuckBuck: Ok

That was the last response I got from BuckBuck and I didn't see him while I was in my parents town. So I assume that he decided to remain in misery with little care for whether he ruined our friendship or not. In my mind he had not but I wanted to get some things straight with him if we were to continue as friends. Now I won't worry about this anymore.

I'm blessed to have friends that do really care about me and my feelings. So one from the past that I hadn't been in much contact with anyway will not matter in the big picture of my life. I know who cares about me and I know who trapses through my life only for a glance. I'm a grown man and It's unfortunate that everyone that comes in our paths is not grown.

So I'll continue being happy with those that care about me and blessed because they do. I wish him all the best but I don't have the time to worry about what I can't do anything about. In my life I've had to move on from so many people that one more that only has spent brief moments in the span of my life in so many years will not be hard to get past.

The rest of my holidays will be happy and I hope yours too. For those of you who commented on my last post...thank you for your encouragement.


Anonymous said...

hmmm, first....I truly understand what you are implementing here.....

but I wish you a happy new year with much prosperity

thegayte-keeper said...

you have the right thoughts buddy

Jamar Herrod said...

You do have the right thoughts. Remnants from my review. Remembering those and appreciate those who actually do care about u. GRATEFUL SO GRATEFUL FOR THOSE IN YOUR LIFE.

Moanerplicity said...

I think you handled things the best way you could, so you can rest in your decision. Maybe in time, things will change. But as I always say whenever a sitution looks dim: 'This Too Shall Pass.'

Now git tuh snatchin some JOY in the New year!


blkbutterfly said...

i had a similar experience w/ a casual friend who texted something completely unacceptable to me. like you said, despite you being grown, other ppl may not be there. all you can do is say a prayer and keep it movin' with the ones who really matter.

deonte' k said...

Buddy, sometimes you just gotta let folks go on their merry lil' way, and continue with your life. ;)

Curious said...

I'm glad to see you're not sweating it. You know there is a reason why you weren't able to stay in touch since school or whenever it was, why should that change suddenly now? You've done the right thing, you've acknowledged the relationship for what it is and moved on without any ill will. Like Martha used to say, "that's a good thing."

Have a happy new year.