Saturday, December 22, 2012

What's Changed?

Though the colored man is no longer subject to barter and sale, he is surrounded by an adverse settlement which fetters all his movements.  In his downward course he meets with no resistance, but his course upward is resented and resisted at every step of his progress.  If he comes in ignorance, rags and wretchedness he conforms to the popular belief of his character, and in that character he is welcome; but if he shall come as a gentleman, a scholar and a statesman, he is hailed as impudence.  In one case he may provoke contempt and derision, but in the other he is an affront to pride and provokes malice.

Fredrick Douglass
September 25, 1883

129 years and what's changed?

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

A Different Kinda Story

This is a young African brother who is now living in America (name Mabasa) and aspiring to shoot a feature film.

Check out his blog for more details:  
Tryone and Randy 

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Black GLBT Book Clubs Band Together

Something is brewing in Houston, Texas.

A group of Black Book Clubs, 4 to be exact, decided that they didn't want to attend the National Black Book Festival because the events, authors and activities that take place at this event would probably not cater to their needs or life.  The Book Club's home locations are in 4 different cities,  Dallas, DC, Houston and Los Angeles.

Together they have decided to create their own Literary Soul Symposium that will take place in Houston, Tx the weekend of September 21, 2012.

Here is a link to the registration page where you can find information about the event and register if you're interested in attending.  2012 Inaugural Literary Soul Symposium.  You can also find them on Facebook by searching for Literary Soul Symposium.

This is their inaugural event and they hope to gain interest from the Black GLBT community across the country to create a tradition that celebrates Black GLBT authors and our lives.  Look for intelligent conversations and meeting new people with an interest in reading.

If you can't attend this event it will be in a city near you in the coming years.

I'll be there and hope to see some of you as well!

Saturday, August 04, 2012


I happened to go on to Anderson Coopers webpage and found D Westry that was on his show.  Now you probably know how much I love art…and if you don't I'm telling you that I  this guy is amazing…check out this youtube video.

Kina's Album Project

Hello All,

Haven't posted in awhile.  Been really busy with work a Literary Symposium and work!  Just want to let you know that Kina Cosper is putting together and independent Album project.  See the details below and how you can help.

Hello Friends, Family and Supporters!!!

I'm doing a new record!!!!!!!! ....And I need your help!!!!! 

As excited as I am about being an artist in 2012 and getting back out there, the costs of being an independent artist are crazy!!!!! So, I decided to start an Indiegogo campaign. This is when supporters go to and make a donation to help me with the costs of finishing my new project. 

On my indiegogo page, you'll watch a video about my cause. I'll tell you more about the record and what it's about. Hopefully you'll feel inspired to make a contribution. You'll see an even more detailed description of what I need you to help me with. Also, you'll see what perks I offer you for your donations!!! 

I'll be adding new updates daily and/or weekly of performances new pictures and information so you can watch the progress of my project. Funds are available to me at the end of this campaign, which is August 29th, 2012.

It's been a long road getting here. I've had great loss both personal and professional. I've also had great opportunities in my past. Unfortunately, most came at a time when I hadn't reached the level of self love necessary to believe I deserved them and to receive them. I made it through though. It's a new day now, and I need your help.

Self love and empowerment are a constant theme in my life, and a constant theme in my songwriting. I understand now that my calling is to help inspire people and to help them to also see their better selves. This record is about that and also just about LOVE, enjoying one another and having a good time. I can't wait to share it with you!!!!!!

So, I'm asking that you go and donate to my project now. Today. 

Any help you give will be greatly appreciated. TO DONATE please go

Also, I know everyone is not able to give as much, but you can still help by spreading the word. 



Monday, June 11, 2012

Perfect Peace

Perfect Peace is a book by Daniel Black.  I assure you, you will enjoy reading this book.  That is if you like to read.  I really want to tell you all about this book but I'm not because if you're reading this post I want you to actually read it.  This is a very different story I'll tell you that and the story surrounds the character Perfect.  Perfect was born a boy but because his mother wanted a girl so badly she raised her boy child as a girl until the time she…uh he was 8 years old.

Take special note of the names of the characters and see if you can figure out their double meaning.

Tuesday, May 08, 2012

Stranded in the Motor City - Documentary

In 2010 the Movie Stranded in the Motor City Directed by Dwayne Barnes was screened here in Los Angeles.  You might remember me posting it about it and the interview I did with him.  (If not you can click on the link above.)  Now you can watch the full length movie online at the link below.

Stranded in the Motor City

Make a comment if you like.  Dwayne reads my blog and I'm sure he would enjoy seeing what you have to say.

Monday, April 16, 2012

Kina - For All the Times

I had the shear pleasure of being invited to Kina's one woman show this evening.  I've known Kina for awhile so this was a no brainer for me that I must be at this show.  I was excited to attend.  So excited that I thought the show was a day earlier than it actually was.  No I didn't go to the theater Saturday.  Thank goodness!  It is almost midnight and I had to get this out while the feeling was still simmering inside me.

You may remember Kina from the group Brownstone and her solo career.

She was on hiatus for awhile and this was a performance that myself and her friends have been waiting for!

It was a one woman show where she dramatically, comedically and stoically detailed her life's journey thus far.  Yes she sang during the show too.  Of course she would, she's a singer.  Not only is she a singer she is a performer. To top it off her characterizations of herself as a child opened your eyes to the beautiful little girl from Detroit.  Add Actress to the slashes behind her name!!

Her timing in telling her story was on point!  If anyone sat in that audience and didn't feel every single word and note that was melodically released from her lips, then there was something the hell wrong with them.  The only way that would have been humanly possible is if, you've never known elation, sadness, confusion, success or empathy.

Have you ever been to a performance and once it was over you felt like … I gotta do something with my life!  Well that was what I experienced tonight.

Thank you for letting me be apart of the audience Kina!!!  I'm looking forward to supporting you in all that you do and waiting anxiously to see what you have in store for the WORLD next!

Sunday, April 08, 2012

Corporate Slavery

It's happening and it's not as subtle as it used to be.  It's just more calculated.  It came on quickly. I can tell it's something that happens in the rooms where we are not invited.  It happens when we walk away from out desks.

 I gotta think about this.  I gotta think what to do.  I gotta think…

They are after me now.  I gotta think.

Why are Black people  letting this happen again?  Didn't our leaders of the past work themselves to death and were killed so that we wouldn't have to change who we are?  Weren't we good enough just the way we were?  What happen to cause us to change our demeanor and the way that we speak just because we walked into that Corporate office?  Hmmm reminds me of Slavery Days when we pasted big smiles on our faces and and held our heads a little low so that we weren't looking them straight in the eyes.

Comments like, "You're very passionate" are not compliments.  "You're emotional" is just another way of saying that you are unstable.  "The way you say things can be viewed as offensive." In other words I don't like you being direct.

Now that that's been drilled into you over and over again the comments are:   You're not engaged, You don't seem happy, Do you think you're being a team player?

Black people….what do you think you need to do?  Many of you don't know because the leaders that fought and died for our equality didn't teach you how what the fight was really all about.  Didn't teach you that we have strength that could sustain us for hundreds of years.  Don't think just because you're educated that your accepted.  Don't think because of civil rights and diversity initiatives that you are save. The world is getting smaller and Black people need to realize that.

The jobs that we fought for are now being done by consultants from foreign countries and sometimes completely moved to other countries.  Think about the the calls you make to customer service.  Most times you're not getting someone in Idaho but in India or the Philippines.

We gotta think..what's going to sustain us?   Not the handouts of Diversity programs that do not sustain those it employes.  We gotta think….what's our next move?

Monday, April 02, 2012


I can't wait to see this movie!  

I hope it will hold up well against the original.  From the looks of the woman playing Sista.  I don't know if she can hold a candle to Lonnette McKee. Yes I'm a little partial…I love Lonnette!!!!

Wednesday, March 14, 2012


Golden rules for finding your life partner 

 When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,  it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to
 finding Mr./Miss. Right! 
 If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.

 Though this may sound "not politically correct", there' s a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then 
the love will com e. Let me say it again:

 "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!!

 Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

 QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

 Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You 
need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

 Two things can happen in a marriage:

 (1) You can grow together, or
 (2) You can grow apart.

 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what t you want out of life! Bottom line; and marry someone who wants the same thing.

 QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

 This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
 Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" ; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague's of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

 QUESTION..3: Is he/she a mensch?

 A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions.
 Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis?
 Are they serious about improving themselves?
 A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";.So ask about your Significant other What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic?
 Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

 There are essentially two types of people in the world:
 (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and
 (2) People who are dedicated to seeking comfort.
 Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing.
 You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

 QUESTION..4: How does he/she treat other people?

 The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.  Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they
 wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following:

 How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc. ..
 How do they treat their parents and siblings?
 Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything;
 Can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

 QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

 Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the  worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then  you are not ready to marry them.

 In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.  The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart.

 It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, 
You don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

 Another perspective. ....

 There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance....

 It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. 
Observe the relationships around you.
 Pay attention... . 
 Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?

 The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

 An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, pity, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

 Do you bring out the best in each other?
 Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
 What do you bring to the relationship?
 Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

 You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.
 You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

 If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

 7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,

Sunday, February 12, 2012

RIP Whitney Elizabeth Houston.

As I listen to this song from Whitney, I find it quite eerie.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Sunday, January 08, 2012

Ten Guidelines From God

My previous post was written out of pure frustration.  God works in mysterious ways.  Earlier this evening I was thinking about my Friend/Nephew, Marlon who passed away and found an old email that he sent me  titled Guidelines from God.  Normally I usually delete these chain like emails but for some reason I kept this.  I know I never read it before today but for some reason I kept it.  I'm glad that I did.  This email has changed the way that I was feeling.  I hope that if you are feeling down it does the same for you.  

Thank you Marlon, I miss and love you.

Ten Guidelines From God 

Effective Immediately,
please be aware that there are changes YOU need 
to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be 
completed in order that I may fulfill My promises 
to you to grant you peace, joy and happiness in 
this life. I apologize for any inconvenience, 
but after all that I am doing, this seems very 
little to ask of you. Please, follow 
these 10 guidelines 

Life has dealt you a blow and all you do is sit
and worry. Have you forgotten that I am here
to take all your burdens and carry them for you?
Or do you just enjoy fretting over every little
thing that comes your way? 

Something needs done or taken care of. Put it
on the list. No, not YOUR list. Put it on MY
to-do-list. Let ME be the one to take care
of the problem.. I can't help you until you turn
it over to Me. And although My to-do-list
is long, I am after all... God. I can take care
of anything you put into My hands. In fact,
if the truth were ever really known, I take
care of a lot of things for you that you never
even realize. 

Once you've given your burdens to Me,
quit trying to take them back. Trust in
Me. Have the faith that I will take care of
all your needs, your problems and your trials.
Problems with the kids? Put them on My list.
Problem with finances? Put it on My list.
Problems with your emotional roller coaster?
For My sake, put it on My list. I want to
help you. All you have to do is ask. 

Don't wake up one morning and say,
"Well, I'm feeling much stronger now, I think
I can handle it from here." Why do you think
you are feeling stronger now? It's simple.
You gave Me your burdens and I'm taking
care of them. I also renew your strength
and cover you in my peace. Don't you
know that if I give you these problems back,
you will be right back where you started?
Leave them with Me and forget about
them. Just let Me do my job. 

I want you to forget a lot of things...
Forget what was making you crazy.
Forget the worry and the fretting because
you know I'm in control. But there's one
thing I pray you never forget. Please, don't
forget to talk to Me - OFTEN! I love YOU!
I want to hear your voice. I want you to
include Me in on the things going on in your life.
I want to hear you talk about your friends
and family. Prayer is simply you having
a conversation with Me. I want to be your
dearest friend.. 

I see a lot of things from up here that you
can't see from where you are. Have faith in
Me that I know what I'm doing. Trust Me;
you wouldn't want the view from My eyes.
I will continue to care for you, watch over you,
and meet your needs. You only have to trust Me.
Although I have a much bigger task than you,
it seems as if you have so much trouble just
doing your simple part. How hard can trust be? 

You were taught to share when you were
only two years old. When did you forget?
That rule still applies. Share with those who are
less fortunate than you. Share your joy with
those who need encouragement. Share your
laughter with those who haven't heard any in
such a long time. Share your tears with those
who have forgotten how to cry. Share your faith
with those who have none. 

I managed to fix it so in just one lifetime
you could have so many diverse experiences.
You grow from a child to an adult, have children,
change jobs many times, learn many trades,
travel to so many places, meet thousands
of people, and experience so much. How can
you be so impatient then when it takes Me
a little longer than you expect to handle
something on My to-do-list? Trust in My
timing, for My timing is perfect. Just
because I created the entire universe in
only six days, everyone thinks I should
always rush, rush, rush. 

9. BE KIND :
Be kind to others, for I love them just
as much as I love you. They may not dress
like you, or talk like you, or live the same way
you do, but I still love you all. Please try
to get along, for My sake. I created each
of you different in some way. It would be
too boring if you were all identical.
Please, know I love each of your differences. 

As much as I love you, how can you not
love yourself? You were created by me for
one reason only -- to be loved, and to love
in return. I am a God of Love. Love Me.
Love your neighbors. But also love yourself.
It makes My heart ache when I see you
so angry with yourself when things go
wrong. You are very precious to me.
Don't ever forget...... 

Lord I'm Tired

I am so tired mentally.  I'm feeling like I'm falling into a bit of depression and all because of a work environment that is sucking the life out of me.

People always tell you that when you don't like your job anymore to find out what you are passionate about.  I understand that statement but at the same time it is overwhelming.  I can be passionate about something but the overwhelming part is that that is not what I'm currently doing.  Hence, to start doing that thing will mean a big change to your lifestyle.  Usually, because when starting something new you won't get the same type of money that you are currently getting in your job.

Maybe it wouldn't be so overwhelming if I had a safety net.  Family or someone I could move in with while changing a career.  But who wants to put that burden on someone.  I'm used to having my space and I know everyone else does too.  How can you do such a thing and not know how long it might take for your passion-filled new career to take off.

I know that what I am going to have to do is figure out what I want to do with my life.  Unfortunately, I think it's going to be a drastic change.

I wonder if I'm the only one that feels this way?  Do Black men feel like they are asked to adhere to a different standard than their co-workers?  Do you feel like co-workers can talk to you in a particular manner that may not be the most polite...but if you do it then you are told that you are an angry person.  Do you feel like you are given duties that you're co-workers aren't and without the benefit of clear instruction or resources?

I know I do.  The challenge is making a change to something where I won't feel these things.  A challenge because of the invested time I've spent in a company that holds a pension for me, 401k and the benefits of being a long term employee.  Companies have created flat organizations these days.  All this means is that there aren't as many positions or levels to move through and if you do change positions then we don't have to fit you into a salary grade because basically all jobs have the she title.  Therefore, you garner little additional money and are systematically moving laterally within the company.

I know I'm ranting without telling all the details of my current situation...but ya see.  I' just tired.  Tired of fighting for what's right, tired of fighting co-workers who are trying to compete with me and I don't want to compete.  Tired of talking about it, tired of my love having to see me looking as if something heavy is on my mind that he can't do anything about.

So I say Lord I'm Tired.  Please help me get through this and shed light on my passion and let happiness rule my life.